Some conversations in life are very tough to have, but, nonetheless, they must take place. For instance, nobody relishes the thought of telling an aging Mom that her only child is going on vacation without her. If that's the situation you're currently facing, thinking ahead and choosing the right words will lead to the best possible outcome. Here are a few things to cover when you speak to Mom.
- Tactfully explain why you're going on this trip without her. The important points to cover are not those that might make her feel like she's a burden. Rather, explain the parts of the trip that might be too much for her to do physically. Also, if you have a family of your own, let her know that you need some time to bond together. Reassure her that you love her very much and that she will be included on future vacations.
- Give her all the details about the trip. If this is the first time you've gone away without her, she will likely be very nervous. Let her know as much as possible, including details that don't seem pertinent. She'll probably feel more secure if she knows the exact dates you'll be away, where you'll be staying, and how she can get in touch with you if necessary.
- Write down and discuss daily tasks that you normally help her with or generally remind her of. This includes shopping for the proper foods, taking her medication on schedule, and anything else she's not accustomed to handling without any assistance. Also, give her a list of emergency contacts. Inform family and friends that she'll be alone and might be calling them.
- Consider getting someone to help her while you're away. Caring Senior Services has been taking care of older ones for over 25 years. We can provide transportation, run errands, handle personal care, prepare meals, and so much more. Respite care is one of our specialties.
As you are learning to deal with the changes that aging can bring, be patient with yourself, patient with your loved one, seek advice and answers to questions, and remember you are not in this alone. Contact a Caring Senior Service team member today!